I was heartened this year, when my mom informed me that picking a “word of the year” was a thing. Apparently (and you probably already know this!) rather than making resolutions, many are choosing to pick a word they wish to embody this year – like joy, authenticity, loving, etc. I was thrilled. Our society is evolving and focusing more on who we wish to be rather than what we wish to do.
I pondered the idea and had trouble settling on just one word. I always strive to be “loving.” I am by nature “joyful” and “grateful.” I am “playful,” “compassionate,” and “creative.” Surprisingly, however, the word that came to me for this year was “honest.” I am impeccably honest with the world. I have to say tough stuff to clients at times. I share the ups and downs of my life honestly with all of you, but as I pondered what needed to change, it dawned on me that I had to be more honest with myself.
I could be more honest about what I really want to do and when – more honest about how many emails I can feasibly answer in a day, more honest about where I spend my time and how much goes to work vs. personal life. There is so much I wish to learn and experience this lifetime and often it falls by the wayside simply because I love and care about the world so much I can easily lose track of time and forget my own desires.
So this year during my break, I unplugged and took most of the week in silence. I’m an Aries/Pieces and the Pieces came out in full force! Aside from the holiday festivities, I slept 8 hours a night, woke up, ate breakfast, picked lemons, then buried myself under piles of polar fleece with hot cocoa and Hallmark movies.
I went deep within, pondered my life, my days, and how to add more personal life to my life. I figured out how much time I needed in the mornings to wake up, exercise, and get everything ready for the day. I cleaned out the house. I ordered meal prep containers so I could arrange my well-balanced dinners in advance. I haven’t yet figured out how to finish work so I can dine before 9pm on client days but I’m sure that revelation will come!
And oh the joy – I meditated for hours and expanded into the oneness in glorious bliss, even visiting heaven again on New Year’s eve.
So who I choose to be this year into addition to being “loving”, “playful” “creative”, “giving”, and so much more is “honest” with myself at levels even deeper than before. So far so good!
Here are a few pointers to help who you want to be drive what you do, rather than the other way around…
1. What word do you want to embody this year?
Take a deep breath. Clear your mind. Say to yourself, “This year I want to be more…” and see what word comes into your mind. There might be a few. Trust the very first one that comes up. “Honest” is my first word. “Passionate” is my second.
2. What would that person be like?
Now that you have your word (or words) ask yourself… How would it feel if I were more ____? What would I be like? What would a more ____ person do?
Can you pretend you are that person now? Imagine…
3. Live that way!
If your word is loving, commit to being a more loving person. If your word is joyful pretend to be joyful until you always are. My word is honest so I’m catching myself when I am doing anything that I don’t truly feel like doing, or when I’m making excuses for why I’m not doing what I want.
Write the words “I am” and then put your word after it. “I am always honest with myself,” for example. You might say, I am LOVING towards life and myself. I am JOYFUL in all things. I am KIND. I am CARING. I am LIGHT-HEARTED. Put this where you can see it daily – on your mirror, in your wallet, on the dashboard of your car. Be that person!
I hope you all had a loving and happy holiday. Together let’s make this the year of BEING who we want to be.