Worry is an unnatural emotion. It is born from feelings of disappointment, abandonment, lack, victimization, and helplessness. It is what humans beings have been trained to do and feel when they don’t know what to do and feel. It give the appearance of caring, when in reality it masks true care. It allows you to focus on being helpless rather than taking responsibility for creating.
Yet, we would never judge it for we know it is an emotional “disease” passed along from generation to generation, culturally supported, and often used as a tool for manipulation. If you worry enough, you will watch the news more often to feel safe. If you worry about your health, you will spend more to prevent disease. If you worry about being lovable you will spend more trying to find a mate, become “more” beautiful, or dress stylishly. If you worry enough about someone, you hope they’ll change to relieve you from your fear.
We say these things, not to be unloving, but to help you take a good look at worry and see it for what it really is. It is born from love. Beneath it is real love. Yet worry itself is not a very loving behavior, and serves little purpose. What lives beneath worry is beautiful. You care. You love. You want the best for yourself and those you love as well. This love is beautiful. It is truth. The worry, however, reflects fear – a fear that something bad can happen, a fear that what you wish for yourself or others will not happen, a fear of feeling powerless to control your life or the fate of someone you love, or a fear of the past repeating itself.
If you want to relieve yourself of the habit of worry (and we do see it as a habit, not your deepest truth!), focus on the love that is underneath it. Focus on what you want to create.
Suppose you worry about money. You say, “I am worried I will not have enough!” The love in you says, “I always want more than enough. I have abundance. I live in an abundant universe! What was I worried about? I create abundance! I focus on abundance… Oh, whew… I am already there and more will come.”
Suppose you worry about a loved one who is unhealthy or addicted. You say, “I am worried they will die or kill themselves! I am worried I am helpless to control that. I am really worried I will die of guilt and grief if they die. I am scared. I love them. I love me. I want to feel that they are safe. I don’t want to feel all those bad things. OK, what can I do? I can focus on their light. I can focus on their radiant health and happiness. I can pray and get everyone I know to pray. I can be healthy myself… Oh that’s it! I can support the vibration of health on this planet! I can take care of my own well being so even if they did die, I’d grieve, but I’d be OK. I wouldn’t be dependent on their choices for my own happiness. There, that feels better… Now I still want them to live but I am taking an active role in supporting life in general.”
You see yourself as powerless victims when you worry. We never ever see you as victims, but we know that through human habit and cultural conditioning, many of you have been programmed to play that role. Far more powerful to find the love beneath the worry and see how you can empower that love! You are incredible creators. Happily you create only weakly with worry and strongly with love!.
Choose to kick the worry habit. It will required some effort and dedication, but the rewards for you and all you love will be abundant and beautiful!