I wrote my book, “Love is the River: Learning to Live in the Flow of Divine Grace,” years ago. I still pick it up as a reminder to myself, to stay in the lovestream as the angels so aptly name this flow. Nothing matters more to me, personally than staying in connection with this Divine Flow. When I do everything in my life works well. When I’m off a little things start to wobble.

These days I’m paying close attention to how I feel. I used to wait till things became intolerable, but now I try to shift gears the minute I feel a shred of emotional discomfort. If a thought doesn’t feel good – say someone says something unkind – the minute I catch myself reacting with a frustrated thought, I tell myself, “I prefer to feel good!” Then I refocus my attention – either towards that person’s good qualities or towards anything else more agreeable.

The minute a negative thought pops in my head about myself, because they occasionally still do, I tell myself, “Don’t lie to yourself!” and then I tell myself something sweet. Anything less than love is a lie and as I’ve mentioned many times before, the people who told you that you weren’t worthy of unconditional love didn’t even know they were lying.

The minute a circumstance happens in my life that I’d prefer not to experience, I tell myself again, “I prefer to feel good.” I find something good about it, or I think of how great it will feel when handled, even if I don’t have a clue how to handle it.

For example, my dad came down with covid last week. He’s active, intelligent, fit, and young for his 80+ years. He’s passionately engaged in scientific research. He’s writing a book, has done numerous magazine articles, spoken worldwide, organized conferences, and is a contributor to the emerging field of Low Energy Nuclear Reactions (clean energy). Being scientific, covid has been one of his biggest concerns these past few years. He’s been very cautious and has taken all the scientific precautions. The virus didn’t care. He got a little worn down on a recent trip and in it came.

I didn’t spend a second worrying about the outcome. I shared my confidence with him that he’d heal and that all would be well quickly, told him the prayer team was on it, made a few recommendations without pushing, and focused all my love on him. I pictured him confident, happy, and healthy, glowing with light. He did his part, by resting long hours and going the medical route which suited his paradigm. Long story short, three days later he’s almost all better, back to exercising, and doing his work. I didn’t worry because I prefer to feel good, and I prefer my loved ones do too. That is the reality I focus on because it yields results.

The world tries to tell us how we should feel. The world tells me I should fear death. The world tells me I should worry about the future. The world tells me if a person over a certain age catches covid, I may as well kiss them goodbye. The world tells me I have to earn love. The world tells me that the markets are going to tank the economy is ruined. Fooey on all of that!

I prefer to feel good.

There are those who will tell you that you don’t live in reality if you choose to feel good. I do not live in that “reality.” I don’t live in a reality of separation, lack, and limitation. I live in a reality that is closer to the lovestream, closer to the Divine reality, closer to the real reality in which we are all unconditionally loved more than we can ever imagine and supported in ways we can’t even conceive.

I live in a world, where there are so many wonderful people doing wonderful things, and at times, good people who are so hurt that they do bad things. I pray for them and focus on their light.

I live in a world where I respect the fact that the lovestream informs all the trillions of cells in my body. When I unconsciously block the flow and mess myself up I know my only task is to get back in the lovestream by focusing on anything positive and then letting my cells do their thing.

I live in a world where no one and nothing else has permission to define my vibration, no matter how much they may influence me.

I live in a world where I constantly seek to dive deeper into the lovestream. I consciously look for things to feel good about. I pray to see even the difficult people through God’s eyes. When something knocks me down, I give myself a hug and start over in the very next second.

I prefer to feel good.

You were born to feel Good and feel God. You were born to direct this LoveStream and flow with it to your desires. You were born knowing that in a given moment there would be a buffet of thoughts and things vying for your attention and you could select the ones that felt good.

This world is offering a very diverse “buffet” of frequencies right now. Give yourself permission to find the ones that feel good. Tell yourself often as you can, “I prefer to feel good.”


Here are a few tips to help you give you permission to stop resisting love…

1. Question why you feel you must stay stuck in bad feelings

We rarely stop to ask ourselves – deeply – why we feel bad. Instead, we give a programmed answer, “I feel bad because someone was rude. I feel bad because I don’t know how to pay a bill. I feel bad because my tummy hurts. I feel bad because so and so didn’t do their job.” “I feel bad because there are horrible things going on in the world….”

Consider this. We were taught to feel bad under those conditions. The innocent ones don’t.

If someone is rude to an innocent child, they move away and wonder what’s wrong with the rude person.

If a child doesn’t know how to manage something they run to someone they intuitively perceive does know.

If a child has a tummy ache and feels bad, they may cry a bit, then soon reach for comfort, distraction, or a nap.

If someone lets a child down, they have a momentary reaction and shift to something that feels better.

If a child sees horrible things going on in the world and they’ve not yet been taught to fear, judge, or hate, they’ll come up with sweet innocent ways to help.

We were taught that we have to nurture bad feelings instead of moving through them as soon as we can. That’s not the best programming.

So even if you have a perfectly understandable human reaction to something that feels bad, question, “Why do I have to stay in those bad feelings?” Do you really have to stay upset because someone was rude, or do you prefer to feel better?

Do you really have to feel consistently bad in your body because you’re ill, or can you slowly seek comfort and soothing. – by napping, listening to good music, getting some sunshine, calling friends, etc.

Do you really have to stay angry because your ex was a jerk to you ten years ago? Question that. Why give them that power!

Do you have to feel less than worthy, less than pure, less than holy because someone did the unthinkable to you as a child? That’s a tough one, but I’ve had brave clients decide that they preferred to feel good now and their desire to feel good was strong enough to carry them away from the painful past.

Question whether or not you truly have to stay stuck in bad feelings. Prefer to feel good. It takes courage to go against the mandates of the world to “feel bad” under various circumstances, but the Divine, who never judges us when we’re down, is always calling us to feel better as we get closer to the lovestream.

2. Refuse to let the World Dictate Your Mood

We give away our power a thousand times a day because we’ve been conditioned to do it. We let others’ behaviors, actions, judgments, opinions, and you name it dictate how we feel about ourselves, our choices, and our lives.

Enough of that.

You were given the right, by God, to be whoever you wanted to be. You were given the right to choose things that please you. You were given the right to think your own thoughts, feel your own feelings, and choose your own vibration.

Don’t let the world dictate your mood. If someone cuts you off in traffic and you don’t like it, have a moment of huffiness, then refocus. Don t’ let others own your mind.

I once heard the Dalai Lama interviewed. The person asked him why he didn’t hate the Chinese armies that had occupied and driven him out of Tibet. His answer was brilliant. “I gave them my land. I gave them my men. I gave them many lives. Why should I give them my mind?” Perfection. He knew that his mind belonged to him and him alone. Yours belongs to you too. Reclaim it as often as you can 🙂

3. Give yourself permission to feel good

You have permission from the Creator of Universes, at all times, to choose to feel good, or at least better. You don’t have to earn it. You don’t have to buy into the lie of worthiness or unworthiness. You don’t have to prove your value to the heavens.

In the eyes of the Divine, you are perfect as you expand into more. You are worthy of feeling good now no matter what you’ve done or not done, said or not said, thought or not thought. You are loved now. You are guided now. You are cherished now… The Divine has already granted you unceasing permission to feel good… no matter what. While others might not be thrilled if you choose to feel good when they don’t, and you certainly do not have to rub it in (!), you have God’s permission / recommendation / desire for you to feel good.


I know that conditioning is a tough undertow always trying to suck us under into the lower vibes. I know that the news reports a large amount of crazy, hateful, hurtful things. I also know that the hurting hurtful are pretty loud and want attention so they go to great lengths to get it.

I also know that the Heavenly news is that the vast majority of people in this world are quietly doing good. The vast majority are trying to be more loving. I know that our trillions of cells are always seeking balance so we can enjoy health. I know that the universe wants to share its abundance with us. I know that you and I are loved no matter whether we feel we deserve it or not.

Give yourself permission this week to inch closer and closer, deeper, and deeper into the lovestream, one better, more loving thought at a time 🙂

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