Nearly everyone I know learned conditional love. We were labeled “good” if we behaved as our others wished, and “bad” if we weren’t. Sometimes the words were used, more often than not we sensed the approval or disapproval of others. We adjusted our behaviors and did what anyone does when feeling corned – fight or flight. We rebelled or conformed, but as we grew into this society’s programs we began to lose our very natural sense of self-love.
A child who has not yet been programmed radiates self-love, self-acceptance, and self-appreciation. They look at themselves in the mirror with awe and appreciation. They point out their missing tooth or their broken leg with pride. They wear their hair as they wish, enjoy clothes that might or might not match (but please them) on a given day, and live according to their own inner compass. They’re straight from heaven, plugged into the Source, and they know they’re worthy of love. They cry, not in feelings of sadness and victimization, but because they want what they want when they want it and know they’re worthy of it. They get momentarily angry if someone is unkind because they know they deserve love. They brag about their art or their newly acquired skills, without a shred of arrogance. You can’t help but encourage them and love them.
Years ago, a friend’s child went through a phase where she was in love with her belly button and proudly showed it to everyone who would look!“Look at my button!” she’d explain with great pride! She was in awe of her body. “Can I see your button?” Without thinking we adults were sliding up our t-shirts to share a moment of self-appreciation with this little spiritual master! Yes, we had buttons too, and come to think of it, we never stopped to appreciate their incredible diversity before this child drew that love and awe up and out of us!
Likewise, I’ll never forget a time when I stopped to visit Robin Miller who was playing piano in Sedona. He is a virtuoso, a channel from the heavens, and someone who had five decades of experience. Up comes this darling little girl who very seriously declared, “I am wearning pian-wo. I will come and help you pway next year!” Darling! She had no sense of comparison, no lack of wonder for her own skills, and no false humility. She was an expression of pure love.
After two decades of working with angels, I know how loved we are. I once got so mad at the angels that I schedule a reading through a friend to give them a piece of my mind. Really. The moment she went into a trance the angels came through and said, “My dear we love you so much. When you’re angry those beautiful green eyes shoot sparks! We are all ready. You can yell at us for the whole hour if you like.” I melted. I could feel their unconditional love. In that energy, I could also feel the roots of my own misunderstandings. In that 30-second burst of love all my questions were answered – not verbally but in one big download. It was enlightening. We are so loved.
When I was engulfed by the light of heaven, I knew I had never felt a love like that from anyone on earth. The light went into me. It went into my cells, my soul, and it read me, at all levels of my being. It witnessed me through space and time. It found areas of my own self-judgment that I wasn’t even aware of and loved me anyway. I cried for weeks after that. It was transformative. We are so loved.
So next time you feel you’ve failed, remind yourself, “I am loved!” Next time someone is not nice to you and there’s a tendency to get upset because you really want them to know your love, remind yourself, “God knows my loving heart.” Next time you goof and get uppity or not so nice, remind yourself, “I am loved no matter what.” We are – no questions asked, no criteria, no condition. While the angels might not love all behaviors, they love us no matter what because they know who we really are. Like a parent who loved a child even when they’re not thrilled with the behaviors, so much more so we are loved.
This understanding and the willingness to receive heaven’s love have changed my life. It has kept me going when I came close to giving up, which has happened a few times over the years. Hurting people can be unthinkably cruel no matter how much you’ve helped them. I just got a letter today from a grieving woman who asked me me to remove her husband’s email from my mailing list. That was totally understandable and I did it immediately. Sadly, however, this woman followed her very reasonable request with an angry jab aimed at me personally. I don’t even know her or her husband and she clearly doesn’t know me. But she was in pain while cleaning out her husband’s in-box and a happy message about a class to connect with your angels didn’t resonate with her at all. So she aimed her pain at me, and I prayed that she find peace. She’s probably a kind soul most of the time. People aren’t themselves when they’re hurt.
Knowing that I am loved and that my heart is understood by the heavens has saved me so many times. It allows me to let go when people don’t understand my love. It allows me to wish them well despite their unkind energy and often ugly words. I’ve heard all manner of things over the years. “You should get a boob job”. “You should kill yourself.” “You have no right to teach.” “You’re a fake…” and the list goes on. Happily, the list of kind and loving comments is much longer.
Even more happily, I know God and the angels love us all regardless of who does or doesn’t love upon this earth. It is a game changer to admit that love into your heart. It is bliss to sit, breathe, and receive that love pouring into your field. I didn’t need to respond to the angry comment. I didn’t try to make a hurting soul understand my love. I didn’t have any need to defend myself or demand “respect” which would do anything but that. I already know God loves me. I feel it and tune into it often. In that reality, I could just wish her well and let her go. I prefer to feel good.
I have talked to so many people these past few weeks who are experiencing uncharacteristic anxiety, intolerance, etc. Without exception, there is self-judgment. It is not a natural condition to judge ourselves – kids don’t – but we do it because we’ve been taught to do so. The angels gently guide us to acknowledge the love beneath all of our feelings and behaviors – whether we’re filled with joy and kindness or pissy and down in the dumps. They offer to help elevate us. They want to assist us in attuning our vibration to a higher frequency so we can be lifted above the murkier frequencies flying around these days.
I sit with the angels often and even more often, I focus on how loved we are. I look at the beautiful sky and feel loved. I look at the amazing people in this world and feel love. I even look at those who take angry jabs at me and know they’ll find love someday even if they don’t believe in mine. It feels good to focus on love. It energizes you. It helps you observe the world and its chaos with more detachment.
So when you feel the chaos of the world right now, or when someone isn’t kind, remind yourself, “I am loved. I am loved by the One who will never stop loving me. I am loved without condition. I am loved whether I’m feeling worthy of it or not because God sees me as worthy. I am loved by my angels. I am adored by the dear ones in heaven around me. I am understood cherished and assisted. What matters to me, matters to them. I am loved.” You truly are, more than words can ever convey.
When someone criticize us we learned to rehash it over and over again in our minds, and yet the angels remind us that we can just as easily focus on the fact that the creator of universes loves us dearly. Sit. Breathe. Receive. Intend to soak it in. It will change your life.
Here are a few tips to help you feel more loved even when the world or others are not being so loving…
1. Breathe in every compliment you get
When someone compliments you, breathe in. Thank them. Don’t just let it pass by without fully receiving it. We take in the negative far too easily. We can train ourselves to fully receive positive energy instead. It just takes practice.
See if you can think of a few kind comments aimed at you over the years. Bask in them for a bit. Imagine taking in that beautiful and kind energy.
2. Acknowledge yourself often
We are programmed to criticize ourselves. We are not as programmed to acknowledge ourselves. The angels have taught me to do this playfully.
They often get in my head and say, “You did that well!” I let someone in front of me in traffic in a gracious moment and they say, “Acknowledge yourself. That was a kind thing to do.” I pick up a piece of paper on the sidewalk and toss it in the trash and they say, “Acknowledge yourself. You care for and love this earth!” I take a breath when someone has been nasty to me and say a prayer that they feel better. The angels say, “Acknowledge yourself. You’ve grown and learned that love feels better.” I get upset with someone and ask the angels to hold space for me while I get it out of me with a brief rant. The angels say, “Acknowledge yourself. How wonderful that you asked for love and help.”
In all acts and thoughts, the angels can find something for us to acknowledge in ourselves. We can acknowledge our good hearts, our wisdom, our kindness, compassion, caring, creativity, resourcefulness, etc. Do it often. Make it a playful practice to “catch yourself” doing something well or loving and privately, acknowledge yourself, “Good job me!”
It may sound silly but it starts to shift you out of the lower vibes of self-criticism and into a vibration compatible with God and your angels.
3. Honor God’s opinion of you more than anyone else’s
When someone says something unkind to you, don’t take in the negative energy being aimed your way. Even if what the other person is saying is true, it could be spoken with kindness. God believes we all deserve loving kindness.
Intend not to take in the anger, judgment, righteousness, or condemnation of others. If someone is blasting me with negativity I envision light pouring into me and spilling out my heart towards them. It keeps me tuned into love instead of tuning into what they’re offering at the moment. Love feels better. Frequently they calm down.
Hold your head up high and quietly, internally, remind yourself, “The opinions of others mean nothing about me. God loves me. God understands my heart. God loves them too. I think I’ll just listen and not respond.”
This takes practice because we are programmed to fight or flight when someone is unkind. A happier and higher response is to simply listen, and acknowledge quietly to yourself the truth – that this is their perspective and means nothing about who you are. You are, always and eternally, loved.
Intentionally focusing on and receiving the love of the angels and the Divine will change the way you see and treat yourself. You’ll learn to accept yourself as you are. If you tap into this love regularly, you’ll know you’re secure, loved, guided, celebrated, and assisted.
Heaven’s love is always there. Drink it in. It is a sweet balm that soothes and uplifts your soul.
Have a beautiful week 🙂
Ann
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