Its amazing. I watch the news and see chaos and sometimes feel it in my own heart, and yet at the same time I feel encouraged, inspired, and passionate about life. The chaos brings changes. Changes bring new ways of looking at life, and that brings greater truth and awareness to the surface in our own lives.
Robyn Friedman is a dear client who is wonderful decorated and self-admitted “home coach.” She gifted me with a session and I have to admit I was both excited and nervous. My decorating style is somewhat like “fairy goes southwest tropical” – i.e., utter beautiful chaos. I had a few ares in my house that needed therapy but was worried about hurting Robyn’s feelings since I didn’t want to change too much. I needn’t have worried. As we played together I realized that I had learned to speak up about my own tastes and as a result I had been blessed to be with this wonderful woman who completely honored them. She helped me with the few areas I didn’t like and was gracious enough to encourage me to keep what I liked ‘as is.’ I realized that she gives people the gift of themselves – much like the angels do in a reading. She encourages people to bring out their best side and express their personal tastes. For some time I had felt that I “should” coordinate my things better, but as Robyn helped me try that out, I realized more about myself – I like everything, all mixed up, like nature! And God bless her for understanding that and helping me make the few adjustments I did want.
I’m sure it would have been more fun for her, from a creative standpoint, to really make my home look good, and yet she explained to me that her satisfaction came from people – from making them happy with their homes no matter what that meant. She had no ego involved and was able to help me accept my own tastes even more.
It occurred to me that if we could all do this for one another our relationships would be transformed. If we could express ourselves and own what we want honestly, and at the same time respect others perspectives, life would sure be a lot easier. If we didn’t try to make others change to suit our tastes but rather helped them be more of what they wanted to be, all of our relationships would be in right order, certainly more honest, and more loving. Thank you Robyn for that gift! (ps – she is at: firstname.lastname@example.org if you’re in Arizona).
So this week, try embracing a bit of chaos. Ask someone else how they would remake your life, or your home. Sit with the ideas. Look at your own life or home with a fresh perspective and see what is you and what isn’t. Be happy you know more about yourself. Stirring things up a bit can bring new realizations, new ideas, or simply greater self-acceptance. Enjoy!