These days, when someone asks me how I’m doing, “Great!” is the honest response. However, the angels are right! Within a given day, I feel it all. I used to joke that the only real answer to “How are you doing?” is “Everything!” I practice using my thoughts to tune my vibration, yet when a computer program doesn’t work as advertised, I sometimes have a momentary hissy. When someone I love hurts, I have pangs of sadness. I’m human. We aren’t here to avoid our humanity but to love ourselves through it.
When I’m upset, I shift into a better-feeling space by choosing to focus on things that feel good, or I sit there and have a momentary upset in the privacy of my own room (Yes, I send myself to my room!) I tell the angels jokingly to “get out the composter,” and I let it fly. The “composter,” of course, is love, which transmutes all energies. After years of working with the angels, I can actually enjoy a brief moment of anger if I quickly move into a more powerful stance of looking at what I need to change.
I am reminded of a scene in the Disney movie “Enchanted.” In the film, a sappy happy cartoon fairy tale princess becomes real when she falls into a vortex and ends up as a human woman searching for her prince in New York City. At first, she remains happy and sappy in spite of the human trials and tribulations, but there is one scene in which the man helping her upsets her, and she exclaims out of frustration, “I’m angry!” Suddenly it dawns on her. She is human! She is feeling! She gets all happy about being angry! It doesn’t last long, of course, but I loved that scene. It was a humorous reminder to love yourself in the midst of all feelings.
Likewise, I just get a towel and wail into it when I’m said. Thankfully, it hasn’t happened in a while, but the last time it did, I soaked a few towels, did the wash, and felt better. I am less “hurtable” now since I’ve largely given up worrying about what others think! The towels are still there, however, when I need them 🙂
I revel in the joy and give thanks for everything when I’m in that space. I am grateful for my chair, home, family, friends, sky, temperature, ginger yogi tea, and you name it! I was walking home from the mailbox today and was basking in bliss and gratitude, admiring the experience of being a soul in a body, when I popped into the mystical again. I felt the Divine looking through my eyes at itself in all creation. I saw lights start to shimmer above the bushes. The air seemed rarified, and even breathing was a gift. It didn’t last long, but it was fun.
These experiences don’t make me a better or worse person I’m me no matter what – a soul having an experience, always seeking to see and be greater love. The angels have taught me to see the love beneath it all. When I’m upset, I want love. When I’m sad, I want love. When I’m happy, I feel love.
The love is there, being broadcast 24/7. When I adjust my vibe to feel it, I feel good. When I am sloppy with my tuning, I don’t. It sounds so simple, but it does take discipline to keep returning to the thoughts that feel good, even when life can be so attention-grabbing and compelling, sometimes in unpleasant ways.
We do truly live a lifetime each day. I have given up trying to be “perfect” in terms of always feeling perfectly wonderful. I’m just happy knowing I’ve practiced and can find the way back to feeling good. You can too 🙂
Here are a few tips to help you return to love even when you have your dips (or valleys) of emotion…
1. Take the emotional stairway – one step at a time
Progress, not perfection. When you’re down, can you focus on anything that feels a little better? I’m not talking about being in denial of feelings. I’m talking about owning where you’re at and then seeing if you can improve it just a little bit. For example, I was once so down that anger was the next best feeling! After that indignation, I naturally felt that the subject wasn’t worth my time. Then and only then could I turn towards something better.
Strive for the emotional stairway rather than a massive leap! Step by step, you can improve how you feel. While focusing on how much I loved my bathroom counter after someone was nasty years ago sounds absurd, it made me feel better immediately, and it helped me get out of a downward spiral that could have turned into a real battle of the egos!
2. Remember we have eternity
Sometimes our problems seem SO big in the present moment. Sometimes they are, to us at least. Yet when you look back at life, some things you felt were unbearable are not even a big deal now. In high school, a girl was always trying to put me down to put herself up. We were at the same bus stop, so I worked hard to ignore her, but she bothered my 13-year-old self deeply. Now I look back, and the entire drama seems insignificant. After going through relationship turmoils in my thirties, I look back, and it seems like a distant dream. The most difficult, painful health challenges I’ve faced are now barely memories.
Regardless of what you go through and how huge it seems now, remind yourself that you have eternity. This, too, shall pass.
3. If you don’t feel good, enjoy whatever you do feel
I know this sounds nuts. Enjoy anger? Sadness? Grief? Of course, they don’t feel good in any absolute sense. They frequently feel terrible. But if you feel like this and can’t yet reach for a better-feeling thought, sometimes the best you can do is have a good wallow. I used to throw myself a pity party when I was down with a sappy movie and soft blanket, and I even went so far once to get some wine and cheese to go with my emotional equivalent! I pampered myself so well that I forgot why I was down.
Likewise, if you’re upset, get out a piece of paper you can shred or open a file you can delete and give yourself permission to rant, rave, and say all those things you don’t mean. You’ll burn it off more quickly.
If you tell a small child they should not feel a certain way, you know what that brings – stronger emotion. If you pick them up, comfort and soothe them and make it OK to feel, the so-called negative feelings will run their course, and the soul’s natural desire to feel good will begin to guide them once again.
We don’t get merit badges in heaven for feeling good and demerits for feeling bad. We simply have one experience or the other here. We feel isolated and upset, or we feel connected and in flow. And frequently, during a given day, we can feel a little bit of everything in this frequency soup of life. Go easy on yourself. Be kind to yourself. We are all learning to manage our minds so much more than we were taught, not by stuffing feelings but by repeatedly choosing and tuning!
Have a blessed and beautiful week 🙂
Love,
Ann
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