Real is the new right

Other than a “smart mouth” and having a stout “lower lip” I tried to be a good girl growing up. In fact being a good girl became a matter of pride. I didn’t sleep around. I was very religious with heaping doses of righteousness. I wore my school uniform skirt 2″ below the knees because that was the “right” thing to do. I did my homework, studied for my tests, gave the right answers, and tried to please everyone. I carried it forward into my young adult life where I discovered that being a “good girl” at the expense of being an authentic one, was not so good after all.

I had done everything “right.” I went to the “right” school, got the “right” grades, landed the “right” job, got married at the “right” time, bought the “right” house, and had the “right” life. While I did have fun a great deal of the time, several years into this “right” life I realized only one thing was missing – me. I didn’t know who the heck I was, other than a “good girl” who did everything “right” according to everyone else’s standards. To make a long story short, as I got in touch with the fact that I was a sensitive with an inclination for mysticism, visionary experiences, and world service, my entire “right” life fell apart, and gave way to my real life.

I think that’s what we, collectively are going through this year. The sugar coated, superficial “right” way of living has crumbled and in its place we’re all getting more “real.” We’re connecting more authentically and deeply. We value what truly matters vs. what is there to impress We’ve seen newscasters broadcasting from home with their kids running around. We’ve seen newspaper headlines that are more “real” than “polished.” We’ve heard the heart’s cries of others. We’ve witnessed smoldering rage. We’ve watched good people come out of the woodwork to help others.

We’re giving ourselves permission to feel more deeply than ever before – to cry, to vent, and even to be happy even when the world isn’t. We’re wearing “zoom attire” more than formal dress, using less makeup, having more voice conversations, and inviting each other into our homes via the Internet. In short, we’re getting more authentic, less worried about perfection, and more concerned with real, deep, true, meaningful connections – with ourselves and others.

We’ve been emotionally pushed and prodded by mass consciousness until we’ve had to back off and say, “What do I want?” and that is one of the very best questions to ask, because if you’re honest with the answer, then your soul is being given a loving chance to guide you – first to love self, and love life, then from that place of fullness to truly love and contribute to others.

At the beginning of the pandemic I decided to be 100% true to myself. I canceled my birthday trip in March so I could do energy transmissions on behalf of the world. I dropped everything when I had the urge to put out positive videos. I have craved silence and inner time for years but this year was the first year I granted myself that bliss. When I stopped doing in-person sessions I started actually living in my home rather than constantly cleaning it and using it as an office and waiting room. I have wanted to garden and finally made time to spend with my herbs. Last weekend I suddenly craved time outdoors again and took a trip up north to sit quietly in the peace of nature.

It has been a year of being deeply “real” and I feel more “right” than ever before. As a result I’ve been able to assist thousands these past few months, from a place of fullness.

Most of us were trained to second guess our natural, positive, simple, happy inclinations. A need to rest turns into “Am I being lazy?” An authentic cry for help is judged as weakness. I’ve heard many secret confessions from people who enjoyed quarantine but were embarrassed to say so and just as many from people who were gathering with loved ones unmasked, before “pods” and safe “small group” practices became socially acceptable. All year I’ve heard secret, authentic cravings from people grappling with an inner dialogue in which they were trying to discern what was “right” when all the while they just wanted to be “real.”

Happily “real” is the new “right.” When you’re listening to your heart, you’re being guided by your soul. When you honor your body, you honor a temple for the Divine. When you speak words of loving, heartfelt, personal truth, you open the door for others to share an equally authentic, heartfelt response.

Collectively, we have been craving this authenticity. Individually we want nothing more than to be free to be our true selves in one moment after the next. We may have been trained to put on a facade, but happily, this year we’re peeling it off, layer by layer, to reveal the shining light of our soul’s truth… and that degree of authenticity is beautiful.

Here are a few pointers to be “real” rather than striving to be “right”

1. Pause or play to get in touch with the real you

When you’ve done everything right and have nothing left, stop. Rest. Give yourself permission to be still, to putter, to sleep. Distract yourself from analysis paralysis with a walk, cooking a good meal, or some other pleasurable activity that removes your focus from life’s challenges. Play, whatever that means to you. Enticed by peace or joy, and unimpeded by self-judgments, your natural, instinctual self will start to re-emerge… naturally.

2. Question your assumptions

When you say, “I have to,” question it. Do you want to? Do you have to do this right here and now? Will the world fall apart if you do something else? What feels most enticing, appealing, healthy, and happy. Do that as soon as possible.

3. Pay attention to what you naturally feel like doing

Every now and then stop and ask yourself, “Am I happy?” “What would I really like to do?” Listen. When I wanted to go within for 8 months I did. When I suddenly felt like an outing, I took one. When I wanted to leave projects all over the house I did. When we resist our natural feelings we exhaust ourselves fighting ourselves. When we flow with our natural feelings, we are plugged into the energy of the Divine.

Although we’ve been conditioned to be “right” the truth is “real” is more empowering, energizing, and allows you to be the person the Divine created in absolute perfection. Best of all, it just feels better!