I once asked the angels how to calm the anxiety I was feeling at the time. Their answer made me laugh. “Remind yourself you’re not in control of the world! A meteorite could come through your roof any minute!” Within months, meteorites were falling through roofs in other countries. The angels made their point.
I started to work diligently on mastering my mind and my inner world rather than trying to control my outer.
At first, I practiced in simple situations. In traffic I’d catch myself becoming fearful and impatient until I reminded myself, “You’re not in control. Just change your inner world.” I started to pray for the happiness of everyone in traffic, and within minutes traffic moved.
When someone was unkind I used to get angry. They need to change! It wasn’t OK to treat me that way! How could they? Now I ask a different question, “How can I improve my inner world? How can I look at this in a way that feels better to me?” Perhaps I view them as an upset child. Perhaps I remind myself their behavior has nothing to do with me. As I shift, many times they’ve shifted too.
As Hurricane Irma approached, she looked disastrous. There was nothing any of us could do externally to calm that storm. All we could do is go within, find the peace amidst our own storms of concern and abide prayerfully in that space. I joined the countless others praying and sitting in silent Presence.
By calming the inner storms of chaos, worry, and fear, and praying to minimize the disaster, humanity did indeed calm that storm. Your prayers and loving energy made a difference. While millions of lives and homes are still deeply – and in some cases tragically – affected it was far calmer and kinder than anticipated.
If, collectively, we can calm hurricanes, certainly we can manage our inner world to calm the storms of stress in our own lives.
Here are a few pointers to work with your inner world to shift the outer…
1. When someone’s behavior bothers you…
Breathe deeply. Say to yourself:
- Everyone has their own story.
Everyone has their own reasons.
Everyone has their own lessons.
- I don’t have to understand them.
They don’t have to understand me.
Their behavior has nothing to do with me.
- I am not responsible for their behavior or their happiness.
I am only responsible for my own joy.
Then, ask yourself, “How can I think about this situation in a way that feels better?” Miracles are possible when you stop waiting for others to change and take charge of your own happiness.
2. When you feel stressed because you don’t know the outcome of a situation…
Suppose you want a job, a new home, for your child to be safe – something you want but cannot control in any sort of normal way. You can worry, or you can create.
Every time you feel worry, try to re-focus on what the desired outcome would feel like. Speak words of “gratitude in advance.” Think of it as building mental muscle. Keep diligently shifting your thoughts and feelings from worry to creating until you feel 100% confident you will receive “this or better.”
Instead of guessing the outcome, you determine the outcome by mastering your thoughts and manifesting “this or better.”
3. When you are stressed for no good reason…
Sometimes you have been under stress so long that the stress remains even after the traumatic life situation is gone. In this case, there are many things you can do physically to calm the adrenals such as taking certain supplements, or doing restorative yoga.
You can also learn or engage in various techniques to help reprogram your inner world, such as Gary Craig’s Optimal EFT (Gary is a wonderful teacher/healer and has a free book on his site called “The Unseen Therapist” that teaches you a very simple but effective practice of self-healing. My assistant, Daniela is also studying a technique called EMDR that helps people reprogram after trauma. I’ll let you know when she’s certified.
On your own, you can remind yourself, over and over, “I am relaxing into the arms of the Divine. The creator of universes is looking out for me. In this energy, I am safe. I am safe. I am safe.” As your repeat this, simultaneously, imagine that you are safe and relaxed. Ask your body, “What does it feel like to be safe and relax?”. Let the body answer, not the mind.
You are reprogramming your inner world to relax into the arms of God.
The more we focus on mastering our inner world, the less we are buffeted by the outer… and the more we can create loving influence in our world and in the lives of others. I haven’t mastered my mind completely of course, but every time I point it in the right direction life shifts in miraculous fashion!