I did a reading a few weeks ago for a dear client who is leaving this earth very soon. She wanted to be prepared. As we discussed the dying process and the journey into heaven, the angels interrupted with a tenderness and love that almost brought me to my knees…
“You have not failed,” they told her. They acknowledged how hard her life had been, how many betrayals she had experienced, the abuse, the unkindness, etc. They acknowledged her tender caring heart and how hard it had been for her to be human.
They reminded her gently that her desire before coming to earth was to learn to love herself in spite of all odds and she had indeed learned to accept her own feelings. The emotional pain that had festered over the years had turned into a cancer. Her body was dying, but they reminded her, “Your spirit is bright.” “You have not failed.” I was overtaken with the magnitude of their love.
She needed the message. I realized after her session that most of us need the reminder too. We have been born and bred in cultures that readily employ guilt as a method to control one another. I used to feel guilty because Eve ate the apple. I felt guilty every time I couldn’t please someone. I felt guilty when I did something for myself, knowing others were in need. I even felt guilty at times when I chose to continue eating my dinner when I could feel someone longing for me to get up and check emails. It was insane.
Years ago, when the angels challenged me to see how guilt had infiltrated my consciousness and polluted my experience of life, I was shocked to see how deeply its unkind tentacles reached into my reality.
I started to systematically eliminate the “guilt habit” from my consciousness. Magically people started to treat me more kindly. Abundance flowed with greater ease. I felt free and joyous. Guilt is a poison to the soul. The good news is that its damage is never permanent and we can, through our own dedication, cure it.
“You have never failed.”
I pray that the words of the angels echo in the heart of this dear client of mine and echo in the depths of all human hearts. Hearing and feeling the love behind those words changed me, drove me deeper into self love, and made me even stronger in my ability to be authentic.
You cannot fail. Just be yourself. You are perfect exactly the way you are… even as we all expand into greater awareness.
Here are a few pointers to help you live guilt-free and remember that you have never failed:
1. Imagine everything you say to yourself, you are saying to a child
My two year old niece recently hoisted herself on the kitchen counter and shared a tub of butter with the dog! She didn’t feel guilty at all and she didn’t get sick!
You were born pure and perfect. This innocent child still lives within you. Find a picture of yourself when you were young. Look at it every day. Send the child so much love.
Imagine this child stands next to you all the time and everything you say to yourself, you say to this innocent child.
Guard the words aimed at yourself and this child. Make them loving and kind.
2. Reframe your guilt trips…
Throughout the week make a list of everything that makes you feel guilty. It might be, “I feel guilty about resting. I feel guilty because I left work early. I feel guilty because I ate an extra cookie.” Include anything and everything that trips your guilt trigger.
Near the end of the week take each one and reframe it. Start out with “I am brilliant…” “I am brilliant because I rested. I am brilliant because I listened to my guidance and left work early and beat traffic home. I am brilliant to grant myself a little extra sweetness and create incentive to exercise a little bit more.”
See the positive side of your guilt-trip triggers.
3. Own your sucesses
Pick a day. Right before bed, list all the loving things you did, said, or thought that day, about yourself, the world, and others. They can be large or small.
“I helped a friend. I admitted how much I’ve grown. I appreciated my lawn. I savored my food. I didn’t lose my temper with that drive in traffic. I loved myself enough to get upset at that driver because I want more kindness. I kissed my dog. I “liked” a Facebook post…” List all things great and small.
The mind tries to negate our “small” successes, but as the angels like to say, “Love is love. Any love is the only love.”
I wish you a guilt-free week and a guilt-free life filled with amazing grace 🙂