I love the holidays. As I’m writing this message is is 1:11am on Thanksgiving morning. The turkey is in the oven, the fridge is stuffed to capacity and I am looking forward to seeing dear ones later today. Sleep will happen first, and then the hustle and glorious bustles of getting 11-courses on the table.

Years ago Thanksgiving preparations seemed like such a huge project and a challenge. Now 30 years later, the meal, although huge, is easy to prepare. This year, I cooked one thing at a time, slowly with love. It all flowed so easily it barely felt like work. It became instead, a moving meditation. The meal is filled with love and I found myself teary eyed with gratitude for the chance to slow down and share with my dear ones.

I used to give both from joy and from duty – what I thought was expected of me. Now I give only from my own heart and my own joy… and that feels like love.

Like so many of you, I felt the earth intensely earlier in the year. She was tense, weary, and discouraged. She was sad about the tension and division within and between humanity. I put out a call, as did many others, and millions of us prayed. She is now breathing more easily, feeling more encouraged, and happily, during the holidays feeling our love. As we remain true to self, we remain in that love, serving both our own spirits, and the rest of humanity, as well as our Mother Earth, through our joyful vibration. After all, a mother’s greatest joy is seeing her children happy!

So this holiday season, be true to you, beautiful you! Take a good hard look at what you do out of duty vs. what you do out of joy, and slowly, one step at a time, shift your giving to be more authentic, more joyful, and therefore, more of a true gift to the cosmos.


Here are a few tips to remaining more authentic.

1. Question your traditions

I love tradition… most of the time. However, every now and then something drops off my list because it is no longer fun, or no longer fits my life. For example, I used to back over 100 dozen Christmas cookies and give them to everyone I knew! Now I do very little baking compared to that, both because I have less time, and also because many of my friends, and myself, are off gluten, flours, and excess sugar the majority of the time. Things change over time. We change.

Continue the traditions that give you joy, and cross the burdensome or impractical ones off the list.

2. Be honest about invitations

During the season many receive a host of invitations. Be honest about where you spend your time. Although there are so many events and gatherings to enjoy, too much is not always a good thing.

People may be disappointed if you can’t join them, but only temporarily. They’ll soon go on with other plans and you’ll be relieved because you’re living honestly.

Decline invitations if you must do so in order to maintain peace, balance, and sanity in your life.

3. Gift from joy

If it is not joyful to buy “obligatory” presents for someone when you feel you must, try doing something you can enjoy instead. Donate to a charity in their name. Take them to an event or do something with them or for them that you will also enjoy. Pray for help!

A simple gift, given with love is always more honest and more loving than an expensive one given out of duty.


This holiday season, be true to your own beautiful heart and you will become one of the shining lights of the season!

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