I’m sitting on my back patio with the portable computer enjoying the birds chirping and the breezes blowing on what may be the last of our cool 90-degree days 🙂 It is lovely out. I covered the tomatoes this weekend with shade cloth, gathered seeds from the now-spent lettuce, chard, and cilantro, and blessed all my plants. This morning I picked three eggplants, five peppers, and a handful of basil. Life is good.
The past weekend I hauled boxes back and forth from storage, taking down my ester decor and putting up my summer items. I went a little nuts making holiday decorations from the dollar store in 2021, and now my house is in a constant space of celebration. It makes me happy. I choose happy surroundings. I talk to people in real pain every day. My work involves listening to my client’s challenges and allowing the angels to present loving solutions.
The angels have worked with me to manage my vibration while witnessing so much pain. They taught me to listen with love and compassion and to focus more on the heavenly love coming through me. They prepared me to bear witness to the heart, capability, strength, and beauty of each soul I talk to. As a result, I can keep going and keep an open and loving heart. Love alleviates burnout and allows me to let the angels bring through their comfort, grace, and ideas for solutions.
I’ve had people love me for this and those who have hated me. Most people come because they want to feel better. A few come because they want to hear that their ex/mother/father, whoever will suffer for their “sins.” The angels are always patient, always loving, and always honest. As people share their upsets, the angels compassionately offer understanding, love, and a kinder path. No one is ever made wrong.
The angels and enlightened souls view everyone as innocent, even in their worst behavior. They see even the worst characters on earth as those who live in misunderstanding. They know that if people understood who they are and the love available to them, we’d all act a lot nicer. Rather than hating theaters, they feel compassion. Rather than wanting to kill the killers, they wish for them to understand their actions’ repercussions and return to God. Rather than being prejudiced about prejudicial people, they encourage prayers to help assuage the fears and misunderstandings that drive their sad behaviors. They also encourage us to have good boundaries! Innocent. The angels and the enlightened beings see all souls as innocent. They have compassion for the lost, lonely, scared, and angry who become pariahs in our society. They, like God, wish for us all to return home to love.
So how does this have anything to do with us reclaiming our power? Well, if we get worked up about who is doing what and why, we can easily let the behaviors of others drag us into despair. If we can witness it, acknowledge the misunderstandings that drive it, say a quick prayer, and move our focus to better, we will experience a much better quality of life. Energetically we will rob the darkness of the attention it wants. Those lost in darkness have no experience of connection to God, so they have no actual power source. They want energy from us—via our time, attention, and upset. We can put fuel in the tank of those who misbehave by paying attention to them, or we can do what we must then turn our sights towards better.
In so doing, we create happy lives. My vegetables get more attention than the wild antics of others. I pray for all involved and go back to my plants. My calling is to spread love and kindness. Vibrationally, I do a lot of good by empowering those who operate in love, whether or not I will ever know or meet them. So can you.
Here are a few tips to help you navigate the human tendency to focus on those who want attention for their negative behavior so you can reclaim your power to create a better life and a better world:
1. Don’t try to feel good about something bad
If your ex attacked you, lied about you, or cheated on you, it isn’t likely you will ever feel good about those behaviors. However, you can feel good about your own growth, about how you embraced the changes, became more honest with yourself, treated yourself better, asked for more, etc. Or you can focus on the cool feel of your kitchen countertop and revel in the privilege of having a modern kitchen. You can enjoy some love with your dog.
The topic doesn’t matter. Vibration is what attracts things, people, and situations to you. So don’t try to feel good about something bad. Try to find something that feels better.
2. Relieve yourself from the burden of changing others
People change if they want to and not if they don’t. That is true no matter how much we bully, cajole, threaten, manipulate, educate, or make wrong. And we’ve all done all of the above, even if unintentionally, at some point in our lives. We’ve all done it with the best of intentions. We’re concerned about someone else’s bad habits, so, in our fear, we engage in all these “convincing behaviors” that focus on the other’s wrongness rather than focusing on what we want. It always backfires.
Can you feel the difference between, “I’m terrified of losing you! You have to eat healthy so you don’t have a heart attack,” vs. “I love you so much I hope you live a long time. I know you prefer foods that don’t agree with your heart, but would you permit me to explore some healthy options that might agree with your tastebuds? I won’t pressure you to eat anything you don’t like. I’ll just do what I can to find things you enjoy.” Option 1 is a “make wrong” for which you’ll get resistance or false cooperation at best. Option 2 is you saying, “I love you as you are. May I try some things to support your health and happiness?” It is easier to focus on what’s wrong than to get creative and focus on how to be truly helpful if you are in your brain. In your heart, however, in a higher vibe, I’ve seen the angels inspire people with brilliant cooperative solutions.
As you relieve yourself of the burden of changing others, you empower yourself to be loving and to gently assisted them with changes they genuinely want,
3. Stop giving your power away to “those in power.”
No one has power over your life experience except you and your vibration. That’s it. That’s the way the universe works, and in this generation, we are all grappling with the paradigm shift from a mechanistic world to an energetic one. We are the ones in between worlds. The young people get it already. So many in the younger generations will choose quality of life over “traditional” success. I stumbled on a video on youtube where a young guy talked about how he strategically priced his items to sell. After describing his thought process, he said, “I look forward to the comments of the morally superior, but hey, I have a good life, and I’m being upfront.” I howled at how honest he was! He certainly wasn’t allowing the behavior or judgments of others to dictate his reality.
We grew up in a culture that looked to authority figures for how we should live. We idolized celebrities, expected world leaders to have our best interests at heart, and listened to those around us (or quietly rebelled!). We are moving into a new paradigm where we support what we wish in our leaders but take more responsibility for our own lives. We can no longer expect others to do things for us. We can’t wait for the economy to be good to dial into a vibration of abundance. We need not wait for peace on earth before we dial into peace. We are—one person at a time—choosing to manage our minds and, therefore, create our own experience of life.
So next time you see something doing something that inspires fear or upset, pause. Remind yourself that the behavior of others has little power over you if you exist in a loving vibration.
You and I were born free. Remembering that is bliss!
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