I spent Christmas this year with a living friend and a dying friend. My living friend is an angel of a nurse who was performing hospice duties for our dying friend. We both “got the memo” from spirit that she wanted to leave on Christmas.
If you’ve ever been around someone ready to graduate from this earthly plane of existence, you know that you’re privileged to be in two worlds at the same time. In order to truly be present to the miracle of transformation about to take place, you have to see beyond the physical and feel what is really going on with your heart.
Our friend’s family had done all they could to make her comfortable. Her bed was near the fireplace, and her children sat in vigil, simply being with her as she slept. Her breath was labored and her body had shrunken to nearly half it’s size. If you looked through human eyes, it was a sad sight. Through the eyes of the soul, there was so much more going on.
A week prior I had gone to visit when she was still awake. We didn’t say much… verbally. I held her hand. The energy started to pour through me. We shut our eyes and together our spirits shifted into heaven. In this dimension, she was dressed in a gorgeous gold gown reminiscent of a dancer’s dress and the angels were singing a glorious chorus of “Joy to the World.” I don’t know how long we stayed in this space but when my eyes popped open, hers did too and we smiled joyously, like two kids sharing a wonderful secret. “Did you hear them?” I asked. Her eyes lit up and she nodded. Gazing into one another’s eyes, we shared one last earthly “conversation” of precious, silent, joyous love.
On Christmas she didn’t need help reaching heaven. As I walked into the room I felt her spirit in every crack and crevice, filling us, feeling us, and knowing, at long last, that she was soon to be liberated from a failing body. I shut my eyes and she allowed me to feel her joy, to peek into the realms she was now experiencing and to feel her vast love for her children. There was no sorrow, no regret – nothing but pure bliss. She kept just enough energy in the body to honor a family member’s wish that she not take leave right on Christmas day, and passed peacefully the next morning. Far from being gone I felt her magnificent spirit in it’s glorious, expanded form. She was “home” – not somewhere else, but every where else. She had not left. She simply expanded into her true nature.
Death is nothing more than the death of an illusion that we are small, separate, insignificant and temporary. Earthly life is a treasured journey into the world of separation so God can peek out through 7 billion different forms and witness the miracle of itself in all of creation.
We forget this truth. The “dying” remember as they are rebirthed into light.
Here are some pointers this week to help you treasure this precious gift of life.
1. Delight in your senses
Slow down. Taste your food. Smell your coffee. Feel the miracle of your own hands. Put lotion slowly on your skin and savor the sensations of millions of miraculous nerve cells singing for joy. Listen to the rustle of the leaves in the breeze, or a song that elevates you beyond the ordinary. Gaze into the flame of a candle and ponder the miracle that you are this same light.
Allow yourself to savor the experience of being in a body.
2. Look at the world, yourself, and one another with wonder
Children live in a wonderful universe because they are full of wonder. We learn to look for the familiar and to judge the unfamiliar. What if we looked at the world with the eyes of a child, with wonder, curiosity, and a sense of adventure?
“That person in line is yelling. I wonder what they’re so upset about. That person in the news looks so angry. I wonder what they feel so strongly about. Wow, there’s a bug. I wonder what he’s thinking…” Wow, feel that ache in my body. “I wonder what it is trying to tell me?”
When we remove the judgment and experience the wonder, suddenly life seems like the miracle it is.
3. Treasure your moments
Each moment of life on earth, no matter how challenging is a gift. Stop, right here and now, and give thanks for everything you find. What can you love now? Who can you love now? Don’t take anything for granted. I give thanks for my bed every night, for a warm home in the winter, for my food, my clothes, my clients, my friends. If I bang an elbow I give thanks for the one that feels good. The more you do this, the quicker the challenges pass, and the more fun you have along the way.
Choose to be happy now, on the way to a happier later.
There is nothing like spending time with someone leaving this plane to remind us of the value our life on earth, even with its challenges. Enjoy the gift of your life. Don’t wait till someday when things look as you wish. Start now because in every moment, gifts and treasures of love and grace await our recognition.