In what seems like another lifetime, but was really only decades ago I was an angry young woman. On the outside I was sappy happy, sugar coated, syrupy sweet. On the inside, buried so deeply I didn’t even know it, I had a simmering rage. It popped out occasionally.
I felt it when someone attacked me with their words. I felt it when I saw someone being unkind to another, and when I witnessed the world’s violence on TV. I felt it so strongly once I hurled a pair of scissors like a javelin, straight into the wall. I didn’t aim it at others. Instead I let it fly in private or aimed it at myself.
Inwardly, I blamed others for my anger, but the angels taught me otherwise. “Anger,” they say, “is a force that causes the seed to burst open and reach for the light.” It is meant to be a catalyst for our own growth and change, not a tool for aiming at and hurting others or ourselves.
So when you feel angry, instead of changing another, it is time to grow.
When I got angry at dangerous drivers in traffic, the angels tasked me to have more faith in God and to know I wasn’t going to die before my time!
When I got angry at people who attacked me with unkind words, the angels taught me to see them as hurting children and to pray for them.
When I got angry at the violence in the news, the angels asked me not to contribute to the vibration of hatred with my own, but rather to pray, send energy and light, and contribute to the vibrations of peace and love by being peaceful and loving in my own life.
When I got angry at the jealous person who sent me spiritual attacks the past few years, the angels helped me get over my fears and learn to love “the other as self” so deeply that nothing could touch me.
As I took responsibility for my own energy, my own thoughts and my own feelings, I stopped being angry. As I embraced a greater faith, I stopped feeling as if the words and actions of others could damage me. Instead of anger, I felt compassion. Instead of contributing to the energy I disliked, I became part of the vibrational solution.
Here are a few tips to help avoid becoming upset or fearful when you witness anger or violence in the world:
1. Use anger as a catalyst for growth and positive change
When you feel anger or fear, ask yourself, “What do I need to change? How do I have to act, think, or feel differently in order to feel good again?”
This is a hard question to ask because it removes us from our external focus and points us inward. However, it helps us stop giving others our power. It gives us back out God-given right to feel better. The answers may not come right away… but if you keep asking, a light will be revealed in the darkness.
There are many ways to shift your vibration into greater love. Get creative. Above all know that you have that power.
2. Practice Ho’oponopono
Ho’oponopono is an ancient Hawaiian practice popularized in the modern world by Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len. He helped cure criminal patients through the knowledge that we are all One. He worked on healing himself and they magically healed as well. The process is simple. Imagine you can say these things to the soul of the person who has upset you.
I Love You
Here is my interpretation:
“I’m sorry” because I have contributed to the vibrations that you aimed at me, either in this life or another. At some point in my life I have been angry or unkind. At some point in my life I have been afraid. I have added to these energies at some point in my existence. “Forgive me.”
“Thank you” for showing me areas in which I can heal and love more deeply. “I love you,” because in our depths we are One.
3. Turn the other cheek
There is a mistaken notion that when Jesus said, “Turn the other cheek,” He meant so we could get slapped on the other side! Nothing could be further from truth! He told me he meant that we should “look away” from the darkness, and look towards the light and truth in the world!
Try it. Give yourself permission to focus on what is good, beautiful, and true, rather than what is dark and painful.
I think this topic is incredibly important given the recent terrorist attacks and the ensuing pain and anger around them. Together, we have a powerful collective light.