I grew up in a family of strongly opinionated and strong-willed people – me included. There were often conflicting points of view… and that used to bother and frustrate us all. I’m certainly not the person anyone (including me) thought I would turn out to be.
In years gone by, I spent many upsetting conversations trying to convince my family to believe as I did, to enjoy the healing modalities I did, and to accept my points of view. I spent many more frustrating trying to be accepted for my beliefs without being able to prove them. My dad is a physicist. My mom has done accounting and office work. My brother is of a religious persuasion and was concerned about my soul. In my younger days, we had some mighty arguments. In retrospect I know we all just wanted to be accepted and understood.
Over the years the angels have helped me accept myself so thoroughly that I was able to give up my need for validation, approval, and acceptance. As a result have no need to push my beliefs on anyone. I’ve also realized I have no need to please anyone by trying to be anything other than who I am. We all get along beautifully now. We all take a much greater interest in one another.
My dad, a brilliant physicist and college professor, now listens to my stories of life working with those on the other side. When I recently went home for a visit, he gave me a tour the research lab where he and his students are studying cold fusion. My mom and I now talk about recipes, my nieces, jokes, and angels. My brother, who once feared for my soul, is a wonderful dad who shares his heart and home with us. I feel as if we’ve graduated. In fact, I just returned a few weeks ago from one of the most loving and beautiful visits in my adult life – truly a victory celebration of unity in the diversity!
Here are a few pointers to find / feel more unity this week:
1. Seek to understand
Rather than judging another perspective, seek to understand. Ask, “Why do you feel that way? I’m interested.” Don’t jump to conclusions or make assumptions. When we grant others understanding, they frequently return the favor. If they don’t at least you’ll understand them more deeply.
2. Give acknowledgment when you don’t have agreement
If you don’t agree with someone at least acknowledge their perspective. “Oh, I see what you mean.” The angels beg us not to try to change others but rather allow ourselves and them the courtesy of simply being acknowledged.
I talk to people everywhere. Sometimes someone will go on and on about a belief that I simply don’t share. I just say, “Oh I see what you mean,” and that is enough.
3. Enjoy the differences
Enjoy cultural diversity. Savor the flavor in life! If you find someone’s perspective absurd to you, laugh about it. What is absurd to you serves a purpose for someone else.
I can’t wait for the day when we all return to that innocent state of being where we are naturally and simply curious about the differences. Variety is truly the spice of life!