| Is my loved one upset with me? I am often asked this question. If you had unresolved issues with your loved one before they passed, or if you were not able to be there when they died, or attend their funeral, please rest assured that they are not upset. After death the soul sees things from a higher perspective and wants to give only love to the people who are remaining on earth. Forgiveness is automatic and easy.
Do they know how much I love them? Without question, the answer is "Yes!" After death the soul goes through a "life review" in which they see how their actions affected people either positively or negatively. They understand what motivated them and the others, and they understand how people felt about them. They know how much you love them, and they are very aware of how much you miss them.
What happens to "bad" people? Although no soul is truly bad, the actions taken by the person on earth may be very damaging. So many times I have been contacted by those in spirit who were very emotional and wanted to apologize to their children or loved ones for the damage they caused in their lives. When a soul undergoes his or her life review, they knows intimately the hurt he or she has caused others, and in this space of love, there is a strong desire to make things right.
In some extreme cases, a soul must go through what I call "Angel Therapy" after death in order to be able to forgive themselves. I see this often with those who have been severely abusive to others. These spirits do not tend to hang around the people they have harmed. Instead they first work on themselves and later are inclined to do some form of heavenly service (i.e., praying for or guiding others on earth who still have time to change). In every case there is forgiveness and there is no lasting hell.
What about suicides? Where do they go? I have talked to several spirits who have commited suicide. I have to admit the initial experience of the afterlife is not always pleasant for these people. They realize what they've done almost instantly and are often horrified at the sudden awakening and realization that they've wasted a life. These people need our prayers. Divine grace will always intervene, but the more we pray for them the quicker they will heal on the "other side" and accept love back into their hearts. The minute they do they begin the process of understanding their lives, forgiving themselves, and working to help the ones they left behind.
I'll never forget on young man I tuned into. He showed me his death experience rather graphically and then his spirit clung to me like a scared child. For three days after his living brother's session with me he was plastered to me, in fear. I even got sick from all the fear. I prayed for him and encouraged his family to do the same and asked the angels to help him heal. In six months when another one of his relatives came to see me the young man in spirit was significantly better. He had realized that he needed to forgive himself and was deeply sorry for the pain he'd caused. A year later, he was completely healed and working with his loved ones. This has been a very moving process to 'watch' and has convinced me that hell is only something in our minds that we create when we don't believe we are worthy of love.
Say more about hell. Hell is a state of mind in which we believe ourselves unworthy of love. We can be in hell either here on earth or in the afterlife. Many of us have had experiences of the "dark night of the soul" which feels like a kind of hell--times when we forget that we are supported and unconditionally loved by God. There is no hell created by judgement or damnation. If a soul in serious self-hatred passes over they often spend some time in a self-created hell. They see what they've done. They have regrets, and they do not yet allow love into their hearts. Like rays of sunlight filtering into a dark room, they tell me, the angels and their loved ones on earth send prayers. They notice one of these rays of light and in that instant they are free. They see the help available, they begin to receive the love, and then they are out of their self-created hell.
We on earth have much to learn from this. We are all worthy of love, no matter what we have done. All we have to do is forgive ourselves and make amends. This is spiritual truth. And as soon as we do, we begin creating heaven here on earth. This is our job...to love ourselves and then others. When we do this we are not so far from those who have crossed before us.
What about marriage in heaven? What if a loved one dies before me? Is it ok to remarry? If a spouse dies before the other, they often encourage the person remaining to remarry or find a new partner. They want us to experience as much love on earth as they are experiencing in heaven. They often help us find a new partner! So many times I have been told by the deceased that they were going to find a new mate for the partner remaining on earth! We often have a harder time with this notion than they do!
In heaven, the "rules" are different. You may choose to live with a partner but your heart holds love for everyone. There is no conflict in feeling love for all souls in heaven. Here on earth we have human weakness and limitations. In the higher realms we geat along easily and graciously with all souls.
What if I don't want to see someone after I die? They will honor your free will decision, but chances are likely you will be in a space of forgiveness after death.
What happens to children and people who die young? They may choose to remain in heaven and grow much like they would have here. Or they may choose to come back into your family at some point in the future (often the case with abortions or miscarriages). In every case I've encountered they are happy and well taken care of.
What about pets? Pets often show up in spirit around their previous earthly owners! Pets live on after death, just like we do. They are happy, well taken care of and not at all concerned about the fact that they're no longer here on earth. Animals do not look at death as we do. They think of it as a natural process and tend not to resist when it is their time. They quickly forget any suffering that occurred before they left. Many times, they'll come back to the owner later as a new pet.
Why are my lights blinking!? What are they trying to tell me? Your loved ones may be good electricians on the other side! They may turn your lights on and off, blink your TV, start up an electronic child's toy, or cause the phone to beep. Their signals may be more subtle such as motivating you to turn on the radio when your song comes on or drawing your attention to something that reminds you of them. There are so many ways they can let you know they are around. And what are they trying to tell you? Most likely they just want to let you know they're alright and that they love you!
How can I learn more? If you'd like to learn more about life after death, I've created two CDs to assist you, one informational, and one designed to help you heal after the death of a loved one. Click here or on the image below to visit the store.
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